You Don’t Need a Mentor, Or Do You?

Is there ever a time in your life you may not need a mentor?

The word mentor has become an overused word for everyone from coaches to friends to anybody who tells you what they think you should do. Is everyone who teaches you something a mentor? What do you think?

We’ve certainly departed from the old image of a mentor being someone older and more experienced taking the new kid on the block under his wing in the workplace. Now mentoring is a business model.

Sometimes you need a mentor and sometimes a mentor can be used as an excuse or prevent you from moving forward.

So ask yourself if you could be playing small in your life by hiding behind the need for more coaching or finding the right mentor? It happens more often than you think and most of the time it is totally sub-conscious.

I remember sitting at lunch one Sunday in 2002 with my friends Janet Atwood , author of “The Passion Test” and Linda Forsythe of “Mentors Magazine”. At one point in the conversation Janet leaned over and said, “You’ve learned enough. It’s time for you to start teaching!” Linda shook her head in agreement and that was the beginning of my speaking and being interviewed and writing articles.

I needed a push. If you would have asked me I thought it was too early. I’d only been learning how to do this business for 18 months! But the knowledge that was my expertise had been there for over 20 years. Is this sounding like you at all?

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Somebody has to push the baby bird out of the nest so it learns how to fly. And sometimes you have to push yourself out.

Like any baby bird, I’m sure you would be telling your mama bird you’re not ready to fly quite yet…just one more week in the nest should do it. Right?

And I bet you wouldn’t purposely spend money going to another seminar or buying another home study course, just to postpone the inevitability of putting yourself out there. Would you?

Yet many people are doing exactly that right now. They have no plan for their success because they aren’t clearly focused on exactly what it is they want or how they are going to get there. They are constantly looking for the right seminar or mentor or coach like it’s the Holy Grail. I know how that feels, because for a while, I was doing exactly that!

Sometimes you do need another mentor , so pick someone that wants to give you the tools to stand on your own two feet rather than keep you tied to them until they’ve gotten as much money from you as they can.

And yes there are some unscrupulous coaches/mentors out there that want to convince you that you need them year after year. Rather than helping you to become strong and self-sufficient, they want you to become dependent so you can make them richer instead of making yourself rich.

When I first started on this new career of being a writer, speaker and doing seminars, of course I needed direction. I found that in a couple different programs. I did the homework, participated in teleclasses and flew all over the country to attend seminars. The key point I’m making is, I did the work. I wasn’t just observing or taking notes without taking action.

Once I realized I had gotten all the information I could from those sources, it was time to ask myself some serious questions.

I needed to create a clear vision of where I wanted to go. What was the end result I had in mind? Once I answered that completely, I could now go out and look for the resources to take me to the next level. I was coming from a place of empowerment, not helplessness, fear or being needy.

Empowerment can only come from being clear about what you want and maintaining that focus.

Most people get lost somewhere along those first two steps. Either they get stuck in the cycle of staying in the beginner program or they move on to something else, but with no real plan. Therefore they don’t ever achieve any real measurable results.

Let me ask you a few questions:?

  • Do you find yourself endlessly chasing another mentor, looking for that one last piece of information that will make you complete or fill the missing link in your success?
  • Do you have any kind of guidelines set up to measure the level of information you need before you are ready to move on?
  • How do you know if you are going off track or if you are right where you want to be?
  • If you don’t have all of those things in place, how will you know when you have arrived at where you are going?
  • How will you know when you have reached the point where it’s time for you to go out into the world and do your thing?

Those are all questions you need to be able to answer if you are serious about continually moving forward in your life. So what do you do if you can’t answer these questions from a position of true knowing and grounded belief in yourself and your goals?

I would suggest that you spend some quiet time alone in introspection and focus on these questions. See what comes up for you. Sometimes you can quickly figure out for yourself exactly what your next step is. Other times you will need someone to guide you through the process. Personally, I rely heavily on my instinct and intuition to lead me to the right person to help me with the next phase of my success.

Then, when you are clear on exactly what your end result is, get a mentor to help you get where you want to go. But make sure it’s a mentor that will give you the tools to take you to the next level and tools that you can use do duplicate the process over and over for yourself once you learn it.

Get on our teleseminar next Tuesday and let me help you figure this out. Details are above in the Special Calls section.

Until next week, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Just comment on this post on my blog at

If you would like personal mentoring, send me an email detailingwhat you would like help with. As your mentor I hold a bigger vision for you than you hold for yourself. When you have faith and a team that believes in you, it gives you courage. When you don’t have to do it all yourself, all things are possible for you. Commit today to go for your dream 100%.

Lynn Pierce, the Success Architect , has taught people how to combine business and personal development to reach the pinnacle of success and live the life of their dreams for almost 30 years. In addition, she is also the founder of one of the most exciting annual events for women entrepreneurs, ” Empowered Women’s Business Summi t”. Now she shares her keys to success and life mastery with you. You can get her special report, “What Do You Stand For? A No B.S. Guide to Creating Your Own Personal Manifesto” at

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