Wouldn’t it be great if everyone accepted the universal principle that abundance is unlimited and the more success you create the more you are given? Unfortunately, a large portion of our world operates under the premise that there is only so much to go around, and everything someone else gets, takes his or her share away.
This lack mentality is prevalent in our society. Look at the joy the press gets out of building someone up into a celebrity only to then find something else to report that will bring them down a notch or two.
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Envious people say that Bill Gates stole the program that was the beginning of Microsoft. Successful people give him credit for recognizing it’s potential, buying it at a great price and then building it into an empire. If envious people gave credit where credit is due, what excuse would they have for not having accomplished more in their life?
As a successful person, you most likely aren’t a victim of envy towards someone else’s success. But you may know people who are, and they could use your help. They may be family members, friends or co-workers who don’t understand why they aren’t getting ahead. You could even be experiencing them directing the negative emotion of envy toward you.
Envy comes from low self-esteem. If you feel good about yourself and your talents, you have no reason to be envious of what someone else achieves. Low self-esteem keeps people from being happy for the success of others. They see every success of someone else as an indictment of their own inadequacy and are usually so busy beating themselves up that they don’t care to congratulate anyone else.
If envy is your block to success you may take it as a personal affront that if a colleague is achieving success, it somehow prevents you from doing the same. Or you may be the recipient of envy with a friend who gets a little cold towards you once you are happy in a relationship while they still aren’t. Or, a co-worker who takes little stabs at you behind your back because you are either making more sales than they are or getting a promotion and they aren’t.
How Can You Help?
The best way to turn around envious people and help them to see the light is to be generous with them. Even if they’re left shaking theirs heads, thinking you’re crazy, be friendly and supportive. Congratulate them when something good happens, encourage them to go for their dreams and applaud their successes along the way.
Show them you aren’t one of those “glass half empty” people. Be the example that shows them success isn’t a pie with only a few pieces, but a never-ending buffet. I can tell you from personal experience that it’s only a matter of time before they start feeling better about themselves. Their hearts will start to open and you can help make that happen.
There are many people realizing achievements they deserve to be congratulated for on a daily basis-and chances are they don’t get even one kind word.
Be the person who changes that for them. Go out of your way to let someone know you think they are doing a great job. Show them what they’re doing makes a difference and you recognize their effort. Not only do you recognize it, you appreciate it.
The joy you get from being responsible for putting a smile on someone’s face is enough, but you will also be building their self-esteem and their belief that people can be truly happy for their success without having an ulterior motive.
They might just go out and brighten someone else’s day. Maybe yours.
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I don’t really understand how you are supposed to NOT be envious of others’ success.
For example.
You are a very talented artist, who has always been humble because they see that as a sign of kindness and character. You see other artists who are less talented than you, amateur even, achieving great success or at least acting like their art is important and amazing, when compared to your own, it is not.
How are you supposed to not want to hurt these people?
And how exactly is the world based on some abundance crap? I grew up poor, with a parent who had 3 college degrees and could not find anything but minimum wage jobs that overworked them to the point of health problems. And even with that, we were homeless several times and did not have enough food to eat. I see no abundance in the world, except held by people who were lucky enough to be born rich and have hundreds of thousands of dollars to invest in real estate. I don’t know what the hell you are talking about.
How am I supposed to accept this kind of injustice?
Wow, no reply…
I guess that’s how it goes. Nobody ever bothers to answer the important questions. Nobody addresses others’ pressing needs…
It’s thanks to stuff like this that the cycle of injustice continues.
The fact that nobody has responded to your comment makes me think that my abundance minded readers can’t relate to the negativity you express.
When you speak about things like wanting to hurt people, ‘abundance crap’, injustice… those who don’t think that way having no comments for you.
It’s much easier to engage with people and start a conversation when you are positive.
Okay, so since unfair things have happened to me in my life and I am not willing to just ignore them, you won’t even answer my question?
Talk about withholding things from those who need them most.
Just because I don’t think the same way as you do doesn’t mean my perspective is invalid, or the injustice isn’t real.
Negative things happen to people. Negative circumstances happen. You are not living a responsible life if you do not acknowledge others’ suffering. If you cannot relate to another suffering human being, you are not fully human!
I have been struggling to break free of poverty my entire life because that was what I was born into. When I see other people easily surrounding themselves with far more resources than they need, and I have to struggle to even make enough money to feed myself, which I don’t… it just is not fair. It seems to me like you are afraid to face the reality that unfair things happen to innocent people.
You want me to be positive? Fine. I’ll be positive.
I want to correct these injustices! I want the world to be fair! I want the poor to not suffer and to be wealthy instead! I have been working my whole life just so I can rise up from the poverty I was born into and help other people do the same!
So far I have gained nothing, and am unable to even support myself, but I am trying my hardest!
So why has the world not rewarded me for my hard work?
I deserve it just as much as anybody!
I know being jealous of others does not help you steal their success. But it is incredibly difficult not to be jealous when you have tried your hardest to achieve it on your own only to be thwarted in every way possible. Especially when those you see achieving success are in fact less talented than you!
I am simply asking you to positively recognize the reality of this unjust suffering and tell me how it can be transformed into abundance and happiness! I would very much like to know!
I am trying my best!
Thank you!
I am still hopeful that somebody will reply to this.
Of course you won’t reply. You just want to make money off of people who have money, rather than help someone who has none, even if it costs you nothing to do so.
You don’t actually care about people. You just want to hoard this “abundance” all to yourself.
Go ahead. Ruin the world.
At least I can live proudly knowing that I am not part of the problem.
You need to have faith and always be positive. Jealousy and envy will not get you anywhere, it will only make other people dislike you and create fights. You need to have a much higher self-esteem, learn to love yourself rather than looking at others success with anger and accept the fact that the world isn’t a fair place.
Once you understand this, you will see that the world will turn around and people will start liking you.
Nobody wants to be around a negative people!
Change your attitude!