How Envy Blocks Success

Wouldn’t it be great if everyone accepted the universal principle that abundance is unlimited and the more success you create the more you are given? Unfortunately, a large portion of our world operates under the premise that there is only so much to go around, and everything someone else gets, takes his or her share away.

This lack mentality is prevalent in our society. Look at the joy the press gets out of building someone up into a celebrity only to then find something else to report that will bring them down a notch or two.

Envious people say that Bill Gates stole the program that was the beginning of Microsoft.  Successful people give him credit for recognizing it’s potential, buying it at a great price and then building it into an empire.  If envious people gave credit where credit is due, what excuse would they have for not having accomplished more in their life?

As a successful person, you most likely aren’t a victim of envy towards someone else’s success.   But you may know people who are, and they could use your help.  They may be family members, friends or co-workers who don’t understand why they aren’t getting ahead. You could even be experiencing them directing the negative emotion of envy toward you.

Envy comes from low self-esteem. If you feel good about yourself and your talents, you have no reason to be envious of what someone else achieves.  Low self-esteem keeps people from being happy for the success of others. They see every success of someone else as an indictment of their own inadequacy and are usually so busy beating themselves up that they don’t care to congratulate anyone else.

If envy is your block to success you may take it as a personal affront that if a colleague is achieving success, it somehow prevents you from doing the same.  Or you may be the recipient of envy with a friend who gets a little cold towards you once you are happy in a relationship while they still aren’t. Or, a co-worker who takes little stabs at you behind your back because you are either making more sales than they are or getting a promotion and they aren’t.

How Can You Help?

The best way to turn around envious people and help them to see the light is to be generous with them.  Even if they’re left shaking theirs heads, thinking you’re crazy, be friendly and supportive.  Congratulate them when something good happens, encourage them to go for their dreams and applaud their successes along the way.

Show them you aren’t one of those “glass half empty” people.  Be the example that shows them success isn’t a pie with only a few pieces, but a never-ending buffet.  I can tell you from personal experience that it’s only a matter of time before they start feeling better about themselves.  Their hearts will start to open and you can help make that happen.

There are many people realizing achievements they deserve to be congratulated for on a daily basis-and chances are they don’t get even one kind word.

Be the person who changes that for them.  Go out of your way to let someone know you think they are doing a great job.  Show them what they’re doing makes a difference and you recognize their effort.  Not only do you recognize it, you appreciate it.

The joy you get from being responsible for putting a smile on someone’s face is enough, but you will also be building their self-esteem and their belief that people can be truly happy for their success without having an ulterior motive.

They might just go out and brighten someone else’s day.  Maybe yours.

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Lynn Pierce, the Success Architect, has taught people how to combine business and personal development to reach the pinnacle of success and live the life of their dreams for over 25 years. In addition, she is also the founder of one of the most exciting annual events for women entrepreneurs, “Empowered Women’s Business  Summit”. Now she shares her keys to success and life mastery with you. You can get my special report, “What Do You Stand For? A No B.S. Guide to Creating Your Own Personal Manifesto” at
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