Not everything in life goes according to plan, even with the best-laid plans.
This is a very personal story for me and one that I believe will benefit you from reading.
I learned a tremendous amount of lessons from this experience. It deepened my commitment to set goals and create a vision for my life on a much deeper level. And it drove me to create new tools that are now part of my goals program and the Master Course, How to Create an Ageless Vision for Your Life.
It’s a painful admission to say that the goals you set were not the right ones, or they were out of alignment with who you really are. But it happened to me. You’ll most likely see yourself somewhere in this. That’s why I’m sharing how my goals sold me short and yours are too.
You may or may not have thought about this before. There’s an old saying about making sure you put your ladder on the right wall before you climb to the top. And yet, where in your life have you gotten to the top of that ladder, taken a look around and found that it wasn’t what you expected or it just kind of left you feeling flat?
There have been those moments in my life and they always served as a guide to be very clear on what I wanted and what the end result would really feel like when it came. I thought I was very good at this whole process of achieving or manifesting, as I like to look at it. In fact, I’d been consciously creating my life for about 30 years already.
I am a little Taurus bull so I’m stubborn and when things get tough I just put my head down and push through. At the same time, I thought I was also good about doing reality checks periodically. Maybe that’s the problem.
What is reality really when you are 100% immersed in going for something?
I found the answer to that question in the most unpleasant way. There was this one thing I wanted more than anything else and the way it fell apart was so messy that it totally rocked my world and my confidence.
There was one thing I wanted more than anything else at the time and the way it fell apart was so messy that it totally rocked my world and my confidence.
This took place several years ago as the economy was starting to crash. I went through a divorce, finished remodeling my current home to sell and was planning a move to the place I feel most at home in Hawaii. I spent 2 weeks, all day long, every day, looking for the perfect home for me. And I found it. Even before I found the house I already had the vision clearly in my mind of the new beginning I would have in my new home. It would be big enough that I could do retreats there and at the same
Even before I found the house I already had the vision clearly in my mind of the new beginning I would have in my new home. It would be big enough that I could do retreats there and at the same time, it would be my sanctuary for rebuilding my life, healing my soul, and remembering who I was before my almost 20-year marriage.
I realize now that in itself was a lot of baggage to put on a house. And even though I thought I was completely in control of my emotions and this whole scenario made sense, I realize today I had created a manifesting fantasy for myself. Yes, that is possible.
I created the vision. I set markers for achieving my goal-what needed to happen by when to move forward. I told my closest friends, who were concerned with how much I had wrapped up in this house, not to mention the $1,000,000 investment. But they supported me and kept checking on my emotional state, or at least they tried.
Have you ever gone through an experience, for example, a divorce, where you thought you were all there but looking back your brain and your soul had left the building and your body was just walking through your life?
Not sure? I think it may be something that requires a long time for hindsight to get clear about.
Anyway, I set the intention. I found the house. I told myself that if I got the mortgage it was meant to be. I was quickly pre-approved. I happily sent in the first part of the downpayment and went about making arrangements to move. Then just as the final loan approval was being done, the mortgage market started crashing and the loan type I was getting no longer existed and instead of the downpayment I was expecting, I now needed 50% more. I had 3 sources of that money lined up so I thought it was not a problem.
Then just as the final loan approval was being done, the mortgage market started crashing and the loan type I was getting no longer existed and instead of the downpayment I was expecting, I now needed 50% more. I had 3 sources of that money lined up so I thought it was not a problem.
As the closing day approached, and the sources of the money were falling through in strange unforeseen ways, I panicked. And when the last phone call came that delivered the final nail in the coffin of this dream I was a hysterical puddle surrounded by a house full of boxes waiting to be shipped to my new home. And in 10 minutes I had to suck it up, stop crying, and do a phone interview. I felt like a failure, a phony. How could I be telling anyone anything when I had just made such a huge mistake? All of those thoughts and emotions went through my mind in about 10 seconds.
And when the last phone call came that delivered the final nail in the coffin of this dream, I was a hysterical puddle surrounded by a house full of boxes waiting to be shipped to my new home. And in 10 minutes I had to suck it up, stop crying, and do a phone interview. I felt like a failure, a phony. How could I be telling anyone anything when I had just made such a huge mistake? All of those thoughts and emotions went through my mind in about 10 seconds.
In 10 minutes I had to suck it up, stop crying, and do a phone interview. I felt like a failure, a phony. How could I be telling anyone anything when I had just made such a huge mistake? All of those thoughts and emotions went through my mind in about 10 seconds.
How was this possible that it could fall apart?
I visualized it, I found the house, I manifested the right deal, the mortgage approval, the sources for the additional funds…everything went according to plan. Right up until the moment it didn’t.
I was so emotionally attached to this particular house by then that I was completely devastated. Not only did I lose a great deal of money, I was embarrassed and felt humiliated. But worse than all of that, it made me doubt my own judgment.
How could this have happened?
It’s been a number of years now and until this morning I had never looked at the photo slideshow I did as part of my morning visualization while waiting to close on this house. I allowed it to hurt me that deeply. And honestly, I don’t know when the hurt shifted from being about not living where I felt I was meant to be and moved to beating myself up over not seeing it coming before it crashed and burned.
That all changed with an aha moment in 2011 when I heard Mabel Katz, a foremost authority on the art of Ho’oponopono, speaking to the listeners on my radio show. Mabel said that it’s possible for us to be such good manifestors that we manifest things that aren’t the wonderful things we would have if we let go and let God.
And it hit me. Little Taurus bull, always pushing, now very aware of when I’m not neutral, that’s what I did! I was a good at manifesting and I did what I wanted, calling it signs from God as long as it showed up according to my plan of how it should happen.
That’s when I realized that by setting the goals we can imagine from where we sit now, we could be selling ourselves short.
Since that huge lesson in my life, I’ve become very clear on when I am neutral and when I’m not. Neutral meaning that this is what I would prefer and at the same time I’m perfectly ok if God has a different outcome for me.
It took a few months for me to be open, but once I let go and let God, a wonderful place showed up for me to live that served me in doing the healing I needed to do.
My purpose in sharing this story with you is that it may shed some light on an area in your own life where you may have a tendency to push for things that in the end aren’t your true path.
Until next time, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Just comment on this post here or on Facebook.
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With over 40 years in sales and marketing, along with 45 years studying human behavior, Lynn Pierce, “The Voice of an Ageless Life and Business,” mentors soul-based entrepreneurs to reach your own personal version of success and an ageless lifestyle. Tell Lynn what the life of your dreams looks like, and she’ll create the blueprints to get you there, along with the sales system to fund it. Author of, “Breakthrough to Success; 19 Keys to Mastering Every Area of Your Life”, Lynn Pierce’s personal growth and business acceleration systems help her clients get three times the results in half the time with one-tenth of the effort. Claim your free special report, “What Do You Stand For” here