Sad Personal News

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Before I can wrap my head around getting back to work, there’s sad news I need to share with you. I know some of you have been subscribers or have known me personally for 9 years now, so you know how much I love my furry children.

While I was in Salt Lake City this weekend, at 3am Sunday morning my ex-husband found Sam, my 15 year old Yorkie, drown in the pool.

I am beyond grief stricken that my greatest fear of her falling in the pool is how she went. He fell asleep without having the baby gate on the bedroom door and she went out the doggie door.

I found out when he picked me up at the airport without them. I’m just numb.

As some of you may know I moved them back to Scottsdale from the beach because her blindness and hearing loss was getting to the point where this was the only house she could get around without sight. This was her home on and off for over 10 years. Now it is her resting place.

Her 13 year old son Spike is doing fine. He never spent one day away from her in his whole life and they loved each other dearly.Lynn&Dogs East Cape.jpg

I know you know how much my dogs mean to me, they are my children. For the last 15 years I’ve created my life around what I thought was best for them.

I debated whether to tell you how she died, but if it saves one dog’s life by telling you to please be careful around water with your pets it will be worth it.

When I was here with them and Sam needed to go out in the middle of the night I would carry her out and bring her back in, just in case. As our pets age they take more time and more care, just like aging people. We can’t forget that. Just last week at the pool store I asked if they had any floatation devices for dogs like I’ve seen with boating dogs and the guy looked at me like I was crazy.

I didn’t want to prevent her from going outside and enjoying the yard, she loved that. I was willing to have her wear a doggie life vest all day if it meant I didn’t have to worry about her drowning if she fell into the pool when I might not see her. It sounded silly and over-protective to some people, but if I would have gone with my instinct she may have still been here today.

You know what your pets need. Do what you have to do. Don’t worry about other people telling you you’re going overboard. Just protect them. Look around your house, see where there might be dangers now as your pets get older that you may not have considered before.

And I pray this is an experience you never have to have.

In sadness,
Lynn

P.S. the second picture is a weekend trip to the East Cape when we lived in Cabo and this is one of the few pictures of us together (Sam is the one on the left) that I scanned in from photo albums that are in storage in San Diego. Sorry it’s not very clear. She was a happy adventurer.

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36 Responses to Sad Personal News

  1. Bob Beverley June 21, 2010 at 9:38 am #

    Dear Lynn,

    I am sorry to hear about your loss. What a blow.
    Be good to yourself, as grief like this is like
    the loss of a child. (I am a psychotherapist
    and have seen grief at its depths when people
    have loved a pet as like a child).

    And I believe in this line from a novel: the
    first thing you see when you get to heaven
    is your pets.

    Peace….one of your readers,

    Bob Beverley

    • Lynn Pierce June 21, 2010 at 10:07 am #

      Thank you for telling me that Bob. I appreciate your psychotherapist’s viewpoint. I think all my readers will remember that now when it’s their time.

  2. christina June 21, 2010 at 9:40 am #

    So sorry to hear what happened! I lost a cat last year to a stupid accident and was totally devastated. It was such a beautifull connection. Which goes on afterwards. But losing the joy of touching, interacting and seeing them… Our thoughts are with you both.

  3. Carol Giambri June 21, 2010 at 9:53 am #

    Hi Lynn,
    I am sorry to read of your dog story devastation. I hope sharing will be healing, but never lose the precious memories. It may help others who are not thinking of this type of situation and now can. I’m dog lover to the max. I take in the rejects and find joy for tons of years from each one. My prayers and thoughts are there with you both. I have a dog that recently recovered from LUPUS and will writing books about her story with a website eventually relevant. I almost lost her so I can relate to that emotional feeling although not the magnitude.

    • Lynn Pierce June 21, 2010 at 10:04 am #

      Thank you Carol. I’m so glad your dog is well. My mom had lupus for over 40 years and I know what that disease can do. Your dog is lucky to have you.

  4. Heidi Richards Mooney June 21, 2010 at 10:18 am #

    Just wanted to express my sympathy on the loss of such an important member of your family. As the “mother”of Jack Russell AND Doberman I can totally relate.

    Animals give us comfort that goes beyond words, they seem to sense our moods and our needs. I am sure Sam is in good hands and will now be your angel to look after you.

    Thank you for sharing such a personal moment with us.

    Regards,

    Heidi Richards Mooney, Publisher
    WE Magazine for Women
    http://www.WEMagazineforWomen.com

  5. Brad Swift June 21, 2010 at 10:33 am #

    Hi Lynn,

    I feel your loss and trust you will move through this grieving time with loving kindness towards yourself, your husband and your other Yorkie.

  6. Malcolm Jensen June 21, 2010 at 11:17 am #

    I’m sorry, Lynn.

    Neither you nor Sam deserved such misfortune. Dogs are, as you so deeply understand, creatures no less worthy than we.

    Sam was well-loved and enjoyed a good life. You won’t forget her, but the pain will become less constant and less intense.

    Warmly,
    Malcolm

  7. Lynn Pierce June 21, 2010 at 11:54 am #

    I appreciate your comments and they are making me feel so much better. I have such a full week that your kind words and the tons of emails I’ve received this morning are making it much easier to get back to work.

    I have lots of good thing to tell you about this week, but before getting back to business I wanted to make sure you all know how much I appreciate you taking the time out of your day to email and post here.

    Lynn

  8. Sheryl June 21, 2010 at 12:08 pm #

    Lynn,

    I am so saddened to hear your news about Sam. You just have to know you did the best
    for him while he was alive and the rest was out of your hands. He will always love you
    no matter what. I lost my sweet black lab one year ago because of old age and I had to
    put her down. I don’t know what is worse losing them by accident or having to make
    that decision. Either way, they are family and will forever be in our hearts. Even after
    a year I still feel my dear Sabbath’s presence…so I know her soul is still around. After
    time for grieving, I pray that you find comfort in Sam’s memory and the fabulous times
    you had together.

    Hugs,

    Sheryl in Albuquerque

  9. Craig June 21, 2010 at 12:41 pm #

    Lynn,

    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Rember the good times you spent with Sam fondly. We had to put our beloved German Shepard down last February and that was the hardest thing I have ever done. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Peace,

    Craig

  10. Lynn Pierce June 21, 2010 at 1:38 pm #

    Hi Victoria,
    My ex does feel terrible and I don’t blame him. It could have happened to anyone. Thank you for your prayers.
    Lynn

  11. Patricia Sherman June 21, 2010 at 1:52 pm #

    I’m so sorry for your loss. We have a blind dog also, and I know the extra care they need. I hope that your ex-husband is also able to forgive himself for what happened. I can’t imagine the anguish he must be experiencing. Please find ways to care for yourself as you go through the grieving process. Our little critters enrich our lives so much and our memories of them will go on forever.

  12. Kathleen June 21, 2010 at 2:46 pm #

    I want to offer my condolances on the loss of your pet and thank you for the warning.

    My poodle got into a purse and found sugarless gum and she ate up several pieces. It caused extreme intestinal problems for her and she nearly died. So I would like to add sugarless gum to the list of common household things to keep away from pets. Until I was at the vet with her, I had no idea that aspertain was toxic for dogs.

    with all good wishes for you in your time of sadness,

    Kathleen

    • Lynn Pierce June 21, 2010 at 3:03 pm #

      Thanks for the tip about the gum Kathleen. I had never heard that before.

  13. Sue June 21, 2010 at 2:46 pm #

    Hello Lynn,

    I’m sorry to hear about the passing of your dog Sam. They become an intricate part of the family and when they’re gone you can really feel the loss. They all have such unique personalities. I keep all my dog’s pictures in a photo album to keep all her memories alive.

    • Lynn Pierce June 21, 2010 at 3:07 pm #

      That’s a good idea Sue. Right now I would love to have all the photo albums that are in storage in CA so I could see the pictures. Sam started having cataracts more than 10 years ago and the flash scared her so she would run when she saw a camera or heard it turn on. In recent years since having a digital camera I have very few photos of her face, mostly her sleeping or far away. I took one last picture of her sleeping 2 days before I left on my trip.

  14. Janet Powers June 21, 2010 at 3:34 pm #

    Lynn – my heart aches for you. I hope you are doing OK and know that so many people are keeping you in our thoughts. For all of us who have loved the pets in our lives and understand how much Sam was a part of your life – we all grieve with you. Although all these posts of support and concern cannot bring Sam back, I do hope they bring you some comfort during this difficult time. All my best. Janet

  15. Linda Allen June 21, 2010 at 3:36 pm #

    Lynn,

    I am SO sorry! What tragic news! My heart goes out to you.
    Sam was so adorable and precious.

    I am weeping with you right now.

    All my best,
    Linda Allen

    P.S. It was fun hanging out with you last weekend in Salt Lake City.

    • Lynn Pierce June 22, 2010 at 11:04 am #

      You are so sweet Linda. I enjoyed our time together this weekend very much.

  16. Libby Tillotson June 21, 2010 at 5:16 pm #

    Lynn,
    I am so sorry to hear about your beloved dog. I know your heart is terribly broken. Your poor husband must feel so badly. Thanks so much for sharing your loss and grief. I will be praying for your hearts to heal. Pets do become so much a part of our families. I have two labrodoodles and they bring us great joy and humor. I can’t believe she was 15. I am sure you have 15 years of terrific memories. Sending love and hugs to you and your husband. Libby Tillotson

  17. Teresa June 21, 2010 at 6:47 pm #

    Dear Lynn,

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Thank you for being real and candid about your furry loved one. They are definetely family and your sharing has honored her in many ways that you cannot even imagine. I know that she lived the very best life she ever could being with you. May your memories somehow bring you comfort in the days ahead. Although I do not know you, my heart grieves with you and Sam. Take care of yourselves during this time and stay in touch with each other.

    Keeping you and yours in my thoughts and prayers…

    Teresa

    • Lynn Pierce June 22, 2010 at 11:02 am #

      I really strive to be as transparent as possible in everything I do. I believe that being real and being vulnerable is how we all connect with each other. I’ve received many emails thanking me for telling the whole story, so I’m glad I didn’t leave the pool out of the story.

  18. Travis Campbell June 22, 2010 at 5:24 am #

    Lynn-

    My condolences to you and Spike. I’ll never forget the day I lost my dogs growing up. Perhaps part of the reason I haven’t got one yet as an adult (and a father no less).

    Hang in there. Hope to visit on my next trip to AZ.

    -Travis

    • Lynn Pierce June 22, 2010 at 10:58 am #

      Hi Travis,
      It would be great to spend some time. I didnt’ get to talk to you much last time we saw each other. Let me know when you’re coming in advance. I’m between Scottsdale/San Diego and who knows where else…

  19. Debbie Bermont June 22, 2010 at 10:13 am #

    Hi Lynn,

    I’m so sorry to read about your loss. I too had a beloved pet cat named Shayna that I had to put down a few years ago before her 20th birthday and it was like losing my own child. I know the grief and the loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time of sadness.

    Debbie Bermont

    • Lynn Pierce June 22, 2010 at 10:59 am #

      Thanks Debbie. Wow, almost 20 years, that must have been a very difficult transition to make. It seemed like Sam and I had been together forever. She was my baby girl.

  20. John Jaworski June 22, 2010 at 12:42 pm #

    To have known the love of your dog is priceless. I am so sorry to hear of her passing. We have twp Samoyed huskies that aere my life! I hate to think of them going on to the rainbow bridge with the 3 we had before them….

    So sad… My thoughts are with you!

    Love,
    John Jaworski

    • Lynn Pierce June 22, 2010 at 1:05 pm #

      Thanks for reminding me of one of my first dogs, a Samoyed named Biscuit. She ate all my early Wayne Dyer books in the ’70’s! I haven’t thought of that in a long time. Thanks for making em smile remembering.

  21. ZnaTrainer June 22, 2010 at 12:50 pm #

    Dear Lynn,

    My heart is there for you, and all those who loved Sam.

    You gave generously in your sharing your story of her
    losing her life so that others, who, as you and I do,
    consider our “furry friends” or children, can be so
    careful. Sam’s loss now will help even more protect
    lives of these precious gifts~our beloved animals.

    Sam lives forever, in my beliefs, still with you in spirit, and
    will reunite with you in the day we move on. Being with my
    own beloved puppies forever {they will always be just my
    puppies to me}, so you, her son Spike, and all loving Sam
    will see the joy she lives, young, playing like a puppy forever.

    This is what I love about you, Lynn, your authenticity, your
    giving of your love, completely, and Sam has always known,
    felt this, feeling your love with your sharing her story, still.

    All blessings, love, happiest, healthiest, wealthiest abundance
    is for you, all who surround you, to their dreams coming true,

    Aloha nui loa … Namaste!

    Zna AKA @ZnaTrainer
    http://twitter.com/ZnaTrainer

    • Lynn Pierce June 22, 2010 at 1:04 pm #

      Thank you Zna, I know you know how I feel. You have such a big heart.

  22. Joe Jutrisa June 22, 2010 at 4:48 pm #

    Hi Lynn,

    Thanks for sharing. It’s very sad news and never easy. Some will say its only a dog but I think we all know better. Our pets are part of our family and I know she was your best friend. She will be around you and you’ll speak about her and you’ll remember and you will smile.

    Many years ago I lost my Bullmastiff. He was a legend of a dog…calm, quiet, strong, protective, fun and handsome (for a dog!). He spent every day of his life with me since he was a puppy. I trained him, looked after him, socialised him, we went to doggie school, cafes, walks, drives…we went everywhere. He was part of the team.

    My wife (then girlfriend was also part of our pack and they adored each other). He used to climb up onto her lap and give her a cuddle. Can you imagine a 120lb animal in your lap! Funnily enough when she became pregnant with our first son he never climbed up again.

    He knew. He would just rest his head on her knee. Amazing.

    When my son was born they grew up together and were best buddies. They even used to share food…yuk! Then my next son came along and he joined the pack. I don’t know how much he remembers cause he was only little. Sadly our beloved Bullmastiff then passed away.

    You know what’s funny…we now have two more children and they weren’t even born when he was around. They say that they remember him! Perhaps they rememeber all the stories and good times we shared about our dog. Who knows.

    Maybe they really do …somehow,,,remember.

    Thanks for sharing, Lynn. You’ve made me remember too.
    Best wishes,
    Joe

    • Lynn Pierce June 22, 2010 at 5:16 pm #

      What a wonderful story Joe! You made me smile, thank you.

  23. Gitie House June 22, 2010 at 5:52 pm #

    Dear Lynn,

    Very sorry to hear of your loss and fully understand how grief stricken you must feel. Sam’s spirit lives on and will stay connected to you, but pain and grief tend to block the channels so we can’t sense them. One of the things I learned by chance in life is to look beyond the pain so that one can stay in the flow and keep the connection with one’s loved ones. When we lost our beloved dogs Scotty and Benny I intentionally put this into action despite my natural inclinations and the rewards have been absolutely amazing. I focussed on the beautiful aspects of their lives with us, their new experiences and adventures that they would now experience in the other realms and on gratitude for having them in our lives. That helped me stay in a state where I could sense and feel them through the continuum. I know you can feel Sam too.

    Warmest wishes
    Gitie

    • Lynn Pierce June 22, 2010 at 6:01 pm #

      Thank you Gitie. I’m sure many people reading this will find your process helpful.

  24. haile June 23, 2010 at 2:04 am #

    hi my dear
    haile is here
    first i will thanks for your iniciativ and i want to sher any thing
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