Catching some of reality TV recently, I have to wonder how some of these people get such an unrealistic high opinion of their talents. When you consider how many people audition for these shows, many are very talented and others are totally misguided in their opinion of their ability.
How is this possible? Do the really awful people who audition for these signing shows or dancing shows sing or dance in front of anyone who is being honest with them? Do they dismiss those people as not knowing what they’re talking about?
Over and over I’ve heard people say they know they’re good because it’s their passion. Others say they will continue pursuing their particular lack of talent because they’ve invested so much of themselves in it. What does the amount of time or the money you’ve invested in a process have to do with reality of it being what you are good at? Nothing.
One of my mentors told me I have to say no to the good to say yes to the great. I believe this also applies to figuring out what you are really good at in the first place; what your passion or life purpose is.
It is so important to have a realistic view of your ability to achieve your dreams and goals. You’ve probably heard you should act “as if” until you have actually mastered an attitude or behavior. In many cases that is exactly what will get you where you are going. In other situations acting doesn’t make it so. It will only work if there is some level of proficiency already recognizable in what you are currently doing. And, this is a big and, you actually are going down the right path for you in the first place.
Wearing blinders and going single-mindedly after the wrong goal is not enough to get you there. Be realistic about what you have a true ability for and let go of what will be a long road of wishful thinking.
Letting go of unrealistic expectations opens you to new possibilities from unexpected sources. Let yourself be surprised!
So how do you know when you have a reality based high self-esteem and you are limiting yourself by wanting to keep your goals realistic?
Here is an affirmation to keep this principle in mind:
As I observe my life without needing to control how my greatness shows up, I am directed to an abundance of opportunities.
There is an incredible freedom in being able to let go and be open to new opportunities coming from unexpected sources. Your life becomes a daily adventure. The more you are aware of this principle, the more opportunities you can say yes to.
Controlling every aspect of your life is hard work and takes a great deal of time and energy that can be put to better use. Have you ever noticed when you’ve tried as hard as you can to force something to happen, many times it doesn’t?
Then, out of frustration, you give up control. You say to yourself “I’ve done all I can do. If it’s meant to be, it will be.” That translates to “I don’t know what else to do. I give up.” When you give up your attachment to how something shows up, it usually shows up pretty quickly. Isn’t that interesting?
Being clear on what you want and at the same time being open to that or something better showing up creates incredible opportunities. Most likely the dreams you dream for yourself, because you want to remain realistic, are way too small. The Universe will create a level of abundance you could never imagine if you get out of your own way.
Points to Ponder
What aspects of your life have you been unwilling to stop micro-managing until now?
What’s the worst thing that can happen if you let go of control?
What abundance could you create by trusting the Universe to provide bigger opportunities for you?
Be aware of what you say to yourself 24/7.
Affirmations and written goals are a good way to stay focused. Do you have written goals? Do you repeat them out loud at least 4 times a day? Write your 3 top goals right now.
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Until next week, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Just comment on this post on my blog.
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Lynn Pierce, the Success Architect, has taught people how to combine business and personal development to reach the pinnacle of success and live the life of their dreams for over 25 years. In addition, she is also the founder of one of the most exciting annual events for women entrepreneurs, “Empowered Women’s Business Summit“. Now she shares her keys to success and life mastery with you. You can get the first five lessons of “Change One Thing, Change Your Life: A Personal Transformation System”
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