Question: I seem to be sabotaging myself when I get close to having what I want. Is this common or is it really a personality defect? I really am passionate about what I’m doing, so I know that it’s the reason for backsliding.
Answer: It’s more common than you might think and its’ really a shame. Every day I hear people from all walks of life saying things that literally cut them off from total abundance. Things like “I just can’t seem to get ahead.” Or “I can’t believe I always do such stupid things.” It’s such a shame because it’s so unnecessary.
If you were fully aware of how you talk to yourself and to the world about who you are, you’d be shocked. We’re all guilty of this to some small degree, but for many it is debilitating.
Your level of self-esteem sets the bar for everything about you. Every decision you make is filtered through your self-concept. Your self-concept is the out-picturing of your self-esteem. The person with low self-esteem is always feeling stuck and trapped by their fear as we just discussed in the previous secret.
Fear, along with low self-esteem, eventually leads to self-sabotage. High self-esteem is an inside job. No one else can give it to you.
So how do you develop high self-esteem? The best thing you can do is surround yourself with positive supportive people. The key is to choose to believe the good things they tell you about yourself.
You’ve heard the saying, “Fake it until you make it.” This is not being phony. Making a change to be more positive about yourself has to start somewhere and this is the first step. The tool I would recommend to help you with this is Change One Thing, Change Your Life.
Also, check out . Once you start working on your belief system and your self-esteem with Change One Thing, you can create your new life in your own personal mid movie. It’s a very powerful tool.
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